Two is better than one only if two can act as one.  Over the last thirty-seven years as a head coach I have told my players that, for them to reach their full potential, we must act as one, player and coach.  Neither of us can do it alone.  But, when we do act as one, some truly amazing things can happen. 

Coach Bud Wilkinson understood this concept better than anyone who has ever coached.  His remarkable record is proof.  In Dear Jay, Love Dad, we are able to take an intimate look at how Coach Wilkinson developed this relationship with his son through a series of remarkable letters written during Jay’s undergraduate and graduate years of college.

To develop this special relationship it is essential that certain things occur.  You must be able to communicate in a truthful manner.  No lies.  Ever!  As a result of this truthful communication, trust is developed.  You must also care for each other and develop collective responsibility.  In other words, you win and you lose together.  A bond is formed.  You then feel a great sense of pride knowing you are a team. 

Imagine receiving letters from your parent filled with guidance, encouragement, and love while you are learning and becoming an adult - knowing each day that someone believes in you and is there to help you.  It is positive learning at its best.

I love the manner in which Coach Wilkinson explained his philosophy of life.  He was able to teach and not preach lessons on a value-based life.  He knew that when these lessons were embraced by his son, they would lead to success and happiness.  It seems so simple: “Do what is right and be confident enough to follow your instincts.  I will always be there for you.”   Coach Wilkinson was. 

For Jay to share these treasured letters with all of us is a remarkable gift.   Thank you, Jay, and thank you, Coach Wilkinson.  Both of you became one!

Mike Krzyzewski
Duke University Men's Basketball Coach
2012 U.S. Olympic Coach